Honesty is the BEST Policy

Why is it that we all know that this is a true statement, but yet we find out each and every day that some people simply can't follow this.  I have come across people who I think really didn't realize that they were lying, they got so accustomed to doing it.  Not sure if it is their lack of self confidence or efforts to control all events in their life, but it is something I even see in my own thoughts. 

Our minds are very powerful tools that can rationalize, justify and manipulate any situation period.  We get put into situations where we get uncomfortable and feel like we need to manipulate and twist things in order to protect ourselves.  I found myself there again today..on both sides of the pendulum. 

Was at a great speaker meeting where I found myself getting called on to share my vision.  This prompted additional questions where I was faced with a decision, with which I continued to be very open and honest about my past failings, which were very public and very shaming to me and my family.  This was not easy, but in the end I felt much better and garnered the respect of the people there. 

The second incident happened while I was back at work, where I had a situation come up where I felt that I need to change a date of a document to ensure that I got the desired result that was easy and what I wanted.  I felt uncomfortable and my mind instantly started thinking about why it was ok to do this and how I could cover it up and would be ok.  After sensing this going toward an all too familiar direction, I paused and stepped away from the office.

Looking back hours later, I know see with much more clarity that there is no need to worry about how things will turn out, I just need to be honest and deal with the situation as it is today.  It may not turn out as I want in the end, but no matter what happens, I have and always will land on my feet and life will continue to be ok.  This has to do with my increased faith in knowing I need to do everything that is based in honesty and kindness to myself and all others concerned.  I will respect myself more and others will respect me more.  Have you not had someone tell you what they really thought and they apologized for being honest.  When after the initial sting wears off, you actually appreciate their honesty even more.