I don't know about you, but after that I have gone through in my life, I don't think that I am afraid of much. However...is that really true? After doing an honest and thorough inventory of what my fears really are, I find that I still have many fears that hold me back today.
It is in my nature to protect myself from those fears with other positive thoughts and with keeping myself busy in life. How can I really move forward if I do not address them...and I don't mean to just acknowledge that I have them. I mean to actually do a "Fear" inventory where I write out what I am afraid of, the causes that I see of those fears, how they affect me and my mistakes from allowing those fears to continue.
Many people say that they have a fear of public speaking. I would say to that is to dig deeper and find out why that really is. Like for myself, I am not afraid to speak in front of 500+ people, as I have done many times, but I am afraid to speak on something where I might feel vulnerable and where people may think that I am stupid when I speak. Hence, it is easy for me to speak on my story or something that I have gone through or something that I think that others are wanting or willing to hear.
How about the FEAR that stops me from doing what I know is what I want to do and can be very rewarding financially and help others? I have a past that haunts me, I am venturing out on this all by myself and it is easy to just keep doing the same things that I have been doing in day in and day out. In a way, reverting back to my "Why?" blog, why am I not doing what I know I want to do and can do NOW?? Ok then, just like I never imagined that I would be writing a blog, my new goal for the week is to start doing something in the real estate world that will get me back into the game. Like one of my favorite quotes states: "You will miss 100% of the shots you do NOT take"
Thursday, November 21, 2013
Monday, November 18, 2013
Why Can Angels Fly?
It is ironic or is it, how things/people/stories get shared at just the right time. I once heard that there are no coincidences, they are just God's way of remaining anonymous.
Well, at a meeting today I heard a friend share this quote that really struck home with me:
"The reasons angels can fly...is that they take themselves so lightly"
How perfect, how my last post was just talking about how we control our own thoughts and feelings, what a perfect extension of this. The other amazing part of this was that on my way to this meeting, another friend called and we spoke for a few minutes and he mentioned how it is a daily struggle that we all have to question our own thoughts. Which states how important it is to communicate with peers that we trust about any and all issues that we have going on in our life, as through we are able to release our sometimes crazy thoughts into the universe. Granted, we are not always going to agree or like what that other peer may say, but just the fact that we are taking inventory and have the courage to tell another human being what we think, is very important into making healthy and better decisions each and every day of our life.
Looking back, the majority of my anger or resentments come from my own thoughts. The expectations of another person on how they should treat me or what they should say or me taking offense to what they did or said because I feel that it attacks my character. WOW...if I would have had a better understanding of "taking myself lightly" these issues would never have surfaced and my life would have been even more peaceful for all who are in it.
This goes back to my core attitude/belief...which is..."ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE" Now I just need to keep on applying and practicing it more often, so that when I feel myself getting into an unhealthy mental situation, that I can quickly snap out of it by realizing all that I have in my life to be grateful for and not one person or thing can ever change that. As I lay down to sleep here soon, I am going to write in my Gratitude Journal and say my prayer to God about all that I have to be thankful for.
Well, at a meeting today I heard a friend share this quote that really struck home with me:
"The reasons angels can fly...is that they take themselves so lightly"
How perfect, how my last post was just talking about how we control our own thoughts and feelings, what a perfect extension of this. The other amazing part of this was that on my way to this meeting, another friend called and we spoke for a few minutes and he mentioned how it is a daily struggle that we all have to question our own thoughts. Which states how important it is to communicate with peers that we trust about any and all issues that we have going on in our life, as through we are able to release our sometimes crazy thoughts into the universe. Granted, we are not always going to agree or like what that other peer may say, but just the fact that we are taking inventory and have the courage to tell another human being what we think, is very important into making healthy and better decisions each and every day of our life.
Looking back, the majority of my anger or resentments come from my own thoughts. The expectations of another person on how they should treat me or what they should say or me taking offense to what they did or said because I feel that it attacks my character. WOW...if I would have had a better understanding of "taking myself lightly" these issues would never have surfaced and my life would have been even more peaceful for all who are in it.
This goes back to my core attitude/belief...which is..."ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE" Now I just need to keep on applying and practicing it more often, so that when I feel myself getting into an unhealthy mental situation, that I can quickly snap out of it by realizing all that I have in my life to be grateful for and not one person or thing can ever change that. As I lay down to sleep here soon, I am going to write in my Gratitude Journal and say my prayer to God about all that I have to be thankful for.
Saturday, November 16, 2013
My Thoughts and Feelings
I just realized again today, as I often do as the days/weeks/months go past, that I am the only person who is in control of my own thoughts and feelings. However, this is often easier said than done. I find myself being sensitive to what people who are close to me say and think, which causes me to react defensively and does nothing but cause problems. I feel that I am the only person who get's in the way of my own progress...my mind is my own worst enemy. How can I fix this and get tougher skin and live a more peaceful life?
Obviously I need to take myself more lightly, especially with the people that mean the most to me. I have had years and decades of my mind thinking the way it does, as my subconscious is who I really am. However, I need to first believe this before I can change it and develop new habits and behaviors that will lead to a different/better way of life. This only happens with an awareness of my subconscious thoughts and practicing new ways of thinking and dealing with the littlest issues in my life, so that my subconscious becomes more competent.
Everyone is going to have a thought about me or what I do, I can't control that. Sure, many people are going to judge me for my past mistakes I have made in my life, but I would not change this journey for the world, as it has made me who I am today and I am very proud of that. We are all our own unique and special people, as a great book states "there is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us; that we are all children of God and we each have a right to be here."
Now the goal is to make my path into tomorrow more meaningful and successful....but it all depends on how you define that meaning and success. So...it is with this thought that I leave you..enjoy this night and the journey that we are on. Remember...that only YOU control the thoughts and feelings that you have every minute of every day...no matter what anyone says or does to you.
Obviously I need to take myself more lightly, especially with the people that mean the most to me. I have had years and decades of my mind thinking the way it does, as my subconscious is who I really am. However, I need to first believe this before I can change it and develop new habits and behaviors that will lead to a different/better way of life. This only happens with an awareness of my subconscious thoughts and practicing new ways of thinking and dealing with the littlest issues in my life, so that my subconscious becomes more competent.
Everyone is going to have a thought about me or what I do, I can't control that. Sure, many people are going to judge me for my past mistakes I have made in my life, but I would not change this journey for the world, as it has made me who I am today and I am very proud of that. We are all our own unique and special people, as a great book states "there is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us; that we are all children of God and we each have a right to be here."
Now the goal is to make my path into tomorrow more meaningful and successful....but it all depends on how you define that meaning and success. So...it is with this thought that I leave you..enjoy this night and the journey that we are on. Remember...that only YOU control the thoughts and feelings that you have every minute of every day...no matter what anyone says or does to you.
Friday, November 15, 2013
Why?
Hello....My name is John Rubischko, I am a success story in the making. However, I just define success in a totally new way now than I did in my past.
Has anyone ever felt the "fuel" feeling after hearing someone speak and just being excited and motivated feeling like you can do anything you set your mind to? Why is it that often we wake up the next day and lose that feeling and get swooped back into the "rat race" that is life and fail to just do something towards that goal/feeling we had? Is it fear? Fear comes in many different capacities and it is often hard to admit to ourselves, let alone another human being. However, if we keep stuffing our fears, how are we ever going to change and experience the life that we are dreaming about. Addressing fears and sharing them with others helps us move our thoughts towards the positive vibrations that are necessary for us to enjoy that success in life that we all deserve.
If we took time to do an inventory on ourselves, instead of looking at how everyone else is so different, we would be able to have that spiritual shift in our life to make positive change. For example, if a Doctor said that if you don't do something that you will soon die...I would say that the majority of us would do it if it was something that we were capable of doing. Why then do we do things on a daily basis to stop our spiritual flow of abundance that we are all capable of in life? One way that I try to work on myself daily is to keep my thoughts positive, but as we all know that is not easy. It is said that it takes 30-60 days for us to for a new habit, good or bad. Since the only thing that I can control is what I do today and my thoughts/feelings, than why do I worry about so much stuff in life that in the end is really not that big of a deal and waste my day. If my 'WHY" for whatever I want out of life and this day is big enough, then I will and can do whatever I want. If I continue to do this long enough, it will become a habit and my life will see great positive changes. Life they say, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
I will leave you today with my favorite quote from one Charles Swindoll: ATTITUDE : "The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Has anyone ever felt the "fuel" feeling after hearing someone speak and just being excited and motivated feeling like you can do anything you set your mind to? Why is it that often we wake up the next day and lose that feeling and get swooped back into the "rat race" that is life and fail to just do something towards that goal/feeling we had? Is it fear? Fear comes in many different capacities and it is often hard to admit to ourselves, let alone another human being. However, if we keep stuffing our fears, how are we ever going to change and experience the life that we are dreaming about. Addressing fears and sharing them with others helps us move our thoughts towards the positive vibrations that are necessary for us to enjoy that success in life that we all deserve.
If we took time to do an inventory on ourselves, instead of looking at how everyone else is so different, we would be able to have that spiritual shift in our life to make positive change. For example, if a Doctor said that if you don't do something that you will soon die...I would say that the majority of us would do it if it was something that we were capable of doing. Why then do we do things on a daily basis to stop our spiritual flow of abundance that we are all capable of in life? One way that I try to work on myself daily is to keep my thoughts positive, but as we all know that is not easy. It is said that it takes 30-60 days for us to for a new habit, good or bad. Since the only thing that I can control is what I do today and my thoughts/feelings, than why do I worry about so much stuff in life that in the end is really not that big of a deal and waste my day. If my 'WHY" for whatever I want out of life and this day is big enough, then I will and can do whatever I want. If I continue to do this long enough, it will become a habit and my life will see great positive changes. Life they say, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
I will leave you today with my favorite quote from one Charles Swindoll: ATTITUDE : "The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
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